Grow within, live fully

Life is a full bucket of fun, enjoyment, heartbreaks, experiences, failures, learnings and healing. Our life's bucket keeps loading as we grow older, as we gain experiences, as we learn to live or survive unbearable situations. But, what we forget is that… we need to offload our bucket from time to time, so it can be carried easily.  Unless it becomes so heavy that we need to drag it rather than carrying it on our shoulders, while enjoying the view from our beautiful journey.   But, we remember only to load the bucket and often forget about reducing the load or offloading the things we no longer need.  And how can we offload our bucket of life? The answer to this question is that… . By learning life lessons. As soon as you learn these lessons your life will be easy, smooth and stress free.  Life lessons that one needs to learn to live a beautiful and satisfactory life.  1.You cannot control everything and everyone Sometimes things happen, despite how much y...

Your habits sum up your days and your days sum up your years and your years sum up your life. In a way....your habits sum up your life. Habits are the key instruments that shape your life into your dream life or life of your choice. Habits act as a bridge between you and your dreams.  But, habits can also be responsible for other ways round. Meaning. ..can make your life useless or miserable, when you adopts bad habits. For example if you do doom scrolling all day and you do nothing worthy or do nothing that adds value to your life, then don't expect any kind of reward from life, and forget about your dreams or the life you want.  That's why positive habits have the ability and capability to transform your life into the life you want. Positive habits hold immense power to make your life hell to heaven, and necessity to luxury.  Power of positive habits or what difference positive habits make in your life.  1.Compound growth Habits add up. Yes…..you heard it right. Pr...

               “Loneliness is the poverty of self,                                 Solitude is the richness of self.”                                                                May Sarton  Nearly six months ago I lost my one and only dream to live for. A dream that was the reason for me to survive each and every day, despite of how hard it was to keep walking. A dream for which I have been fighting for the past 10 years. A dream that pushed me to do something extra everyday without tiredness.  In the hope of getting there. I was blindly following what it took, but ultimately I couldn't make it, and I decided to end my beautiful journey, though it left me in pieces.  But, it brings me what...

  My younger brother did his schooling from a boarding school, he barely remained at home in his childhood. But, whenever he comes he creates havoc in our home over tiny issues.  While all other family members remain silent in the meantime. Nobody says anything till he settles down.  The most surprising thing for all of us….is that after 15-20 minutes he comes back to his senses.  So, other family members do not take it seriously. And he himself makes fun of him or how he was reacting?  But, I often wondered why he was behaving like this? Why does he lose control over himself? Why can't he remain calm and control his emotions?  Whenever I asked him about this, he said, “ I don't know what happened to me at that time? I try not to react, but I can't help it?  After reading so many books on self awareness, behavior, and about mindset. I came to realize that my brother lacks self awareness. He lacks emotional intelligence. He lose control because he doesn...

  “ Success is not a destination you reach, it is the person you become through persistence, purpose and continuous growth.”  The word “success” has a diverse connotation attached to it. Success has different meanings for different people in different situations.  But something common to all is passion for it, hunger to achieve breakthrough and guts to move forward despite setbacks.  But, to achieve success, we have to bend ourselves in such a way, where we have to follow certain good things and more importantly unfollow bad things.  Here everybody has some idea about what to follow to achieve success in life. For example: do hard work, utilizes your time and resources efficiently, focus on goals… . so on.  But, when it comes to what to unfollow? We rarely have any idea.  Sometimes we unknowingly do certain things which are increasing the distance between us and our success.  And the amazing thing is that we don't even realize or notice our self s...

  Forgiveness is a process, not a single decision where you deliberately choose to let go of anger, resentment and feelings of revenge towards a person or events. This is a lifelong journey where you carry out the practices of forgiveness on a regular basis on regular distressing events.  Forgiveness plays a huge role in leading to a peaceful, focused and fulfilling life. Forgiveness holds immense power to make your life chaotic to stabilize and distressful to dignified.   People often opt for forgiveness to make themselves free from the emotional burden and heaviness. It helps them to lead a free life, without any burden and guilt.  Forgiveness is not only directed towards others but also for yourselves. Forgiving others makes you trust again, live again and build connections which are key towards your journey of life.  While forgiving yourself means letting go and moving forward for your own betterment and this happens by practicing self compassion and po...

Are you one of them? Who waits for a perfect moment to celebrate their wins, to be happy in life, to take their first solo trip, or to show their affection for their loved ones.  We all live this, we set certain milestones in our lives to enjoy life. We wait to achieve them first, till then say good bye to life or I must say to a fulfilling or happy life.  Even though for that, we have to wait for our whole life, then suddenly one day we realize that we waited all along to live a moment that is never going to come rather it was always with us.   Then we feel like we wasted all our lives in chasing milestones. Never thought that, these milestones are endless.  That's why, we ourselves have to steal some time for ourselves or to live a fulfilling, happy and contentful life.  So, never wait in life to live, never leave your happiness for tomorrow. Because, tomorrow never arrives.  Here, I am pointing out certain things you must do to live a fulfilling lif...

Confidence and self esteem both are relative but different, let us understand their meaning by small example.  I couldn't speak on the podium. As I feel ... .I may not be able to speak nicely. Because, I am not good at English.  I cannot take a stand for myself… as I feel I am not qualified enough to make decisions. I am afraid… that it might upset my family. They know the world better than me.  The first case is about confidence…where I am have low confidence, as I lack good communication skills. Confidence is about having clear cut knowledge and skills.  The second case is about having low self-esteem. Where I consider myself as vulnerable and obligate person. Self esteem is about what we think of ourselves.  Both confidence and self esteem determine your growth and progress in life. Your success in life is decided by both to a larger extent.  Having confidence opens new doors to venture out. While self esteem provides us the guts to pursue our dreams and...

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is the courage to live authentically.” Once in a metro I was sitting near an uncle who was talking about his life. He spends his whole life in a job and responsibilities. Now, after his retirement he is doing things that he wanted to do when he was young….. That is travelling. But now he is facing limitations due to his age, but still he wanted to go as far as possible.              This story tells us… life is all about choices, you can start whenever you want, but it is better to start early.  And you shouldn't be afraid or feel ashamed to live a life of your choice, despite job and responsibilities.  For that you have to have courage to follow your convictions and have guts to do what makes you happy.  Here, you have to do things for yourself.  And it is your responsibility to live a happy and contentful life.  These are certain practices you can follow or can do for yourself… . ...

Stress is a state of mind, which occurs when the outcome of our or someone else's action is not coming, what and how we have imagined. Stress is caused by the gap between our expectations and reality.    Stress can be a situational thing which occurs when we are in a high pressure or tension situation. For example, during exams or in a game. But, stress also can be a long term phenomena, if we fail to recognize and manage it properly. Because continuous stress often transforms into depression and mental illness. This occurs when we are having stress over something on a regular basis.  In today's world…stress has become a common phenomena. Where each other person is affected by it.  Some of the main causes of stress in the middle income and high income countries are: stress of studies, career, relationship and social pressure to get success ASAP. Now, see what we can do on a daily basis to avoid stress in our life. So, we can live a peaceful, stable and joyous life....