How to boost confidence and self esteem:12 life changing habits

Confidence and self esteem both are relative but different, let us understand their meaning by small example. 

I couldn't speak on the podium. As I feel ... .I may not be able to speak nicely. Because, I am not good at English. 

I cannot take a stand for myself… as I feel I am not qualified enough to make decisions. I am afraid… that it might upset my family. They know the world better than me. 

The first case is about confidence…where I am have low confidence, as I lack good communication skills. Confidence is about having clear cut knowledge and skills. 

The second case is about having low self-esteem. Where I consider myself as vulnerable and obligate person. Self esteem is about what we think of ourselves. 

Both confidence and self esteem determine your growth and progress in life. Your success in life is decided by both to a larger extent. 

Having confidence opens new doors to venture out. While self esteem provides us the guts to pursue our dreams and chase our drives despite setbacks. 

 

What we can do to boost our confidence and self esteem:

1.Get out of your comfort zone

Living in a shield or protective environment often becomes a roadblock in your journey of growth and success. There is a huge difference between theoretical and practical life.

 Your comfort gives you theoretical experience. It will never give you confidence to survive outside. 

While doing things practically put you in uncomfortable situations, broaden your horizons, make you understand different scenarios of life. It automatically brings confidence. 

Confidence brings self esteem along with it. As you get to know that you can survive anywhere. 

2.Face your fears slowly but gradually

Let me tell you about myself. My biggest fear was talking to strangers over the phone. It might sound weird, as it is “a piece of cake” for most of you. 

But, low self-esteem was the reason behind it. I find it difficult to pick a phone? when an unknown number pops up on screen. 

As the time passes, I decided to overcome it. I decided to face my fear. 

I started talking to the customer care number, start enquiring about the various courses and often try to speak unknown person in real life also. 

Over a period of time I realized that I came out a person with higher self esteem. 

3.Try to become financially independent ASAP

Empty pockets give you zero confidence and low self-esteem. It makes you vulnerable to brutal social realities.

 Being financially independent provides you the confidence to speak anywhere and about anything with anyone. 

Financial independence means confidence… you are not going to be suppressed by anyone. Your voice will have a weightage. 

It will give you both confidence and self esteem. 

4.Accept your drawbacks and build upon them

 You all are having some kind of inadequacy in your life, in your skills or in your knowledge.

First find out these inadequacies or drawbacks, then work upon them to get mastery. For example, lack of AI skills, problems with communication skills...etc.

Learn them and become a pro. 

Having problems with public speaking.. Own the stage as many times as possible. At first it will be a disaster but over time you will become comfortable, once you get the confidence. 

5.Track your wins on a regular basis

Small victories and failures are day to day things if you are in a business or whatever field you are in. 

But, humans have a tendency to see their failures as big as possible, while seeing their achievements as small as possible. 

Thus, come out from this. And start celebrating your wins. Because, it will work like a fuel for your next target and as a healer for your previous setback. 

6.Fulfill your commitments

When you delay your commitments it not only undermines your confidence but slowly eats away your self esteem. 

Your worth in your own eyes will start dwindling. It will cause further delay and traps you in a never ending cycle of pendency. 

Thus, always fulfill your commitments at first and have respect for your job. It will get you high self esteem for a long time. 

7.Become limitless

Remember you don't have any limits to your achievements, your limits are decided by yourself, there is no universal criteria to judge your abilities.

 And until you push it…how will you know your real strength? 

Thus, move forward, take risks, push your limits… gain confidence, boost your self esteem. 

Your limit is a self made boundary, real growth happens beyond it. 

8.Take care of your physique

A good physique and correct posture speaks for yourself. It strengthens your body language and boosts your self esteem.

Physical exercises are key for good physique, regular exercises not only make you fit and healthy but also transform you into an upgraded and confident version. 

9.Groom your outer self to outshine your inner self

Groom yourself as if you are living your last days, dress like you own the world. Because looking good comes very first in building confidence and self esteem. 

And when you value yourself, like yourself.. Others will also follow the same, they will start giving importance to you. Because it is the result of compounding effects. 

Thus, self priority should be number one for you, if you want to gain confidence and boost your self esteem. 

10.Surround yourself with confident people

Your personality is often shaped by the people around you. If you have low esteem people around you… you will also become like them. You will think a lot before taking any step forward and they will also constantly remind you of your fears. 

That is why being in the company of confident people is necessary, they will force you to venture out, give you confidence, support you in tough times, and advise you in difficulties. 

And then, you eventually turned into a confident person with high self esteem. 

11.Never involve in negative self talk

Your strength comes from your inner self. If you are weak from inside or you doubt yourselves, you don't believe in your own abilities. Then, 

How can you conquer the world? 

How can you gain confidence to make your dreams come true? 

This will lower your self esteem in the long run. 

So, never ever doubt yourself, flip your negative self talk into positive talk. Have belief in yourself, have confidence to walk through the world effortlessly, despite challenges. 

A stone gains its perfect shape only after… moving for years with the river

12.Never compare your journey with other

Each one of you are born in different countries, grew up with different families, accessed education in different environments and built your character in different societies. 

How can your journey be the same? 

But, still you are comparing yourself with others then… it is going to do nothing productive, but surely undermine your confidence and self esteem. 

Then, why to compare, accept your unique path and struggles of it and make yourself strong to overcome all unfairness. 

 

Now it's your turn to be a person with high self esteem and confidence. 

Never undermine your self esteem. If you are falling then start again, start fresh, have confidence and make your own sky.

 Where you are the brightest star. 

Remember those who are successful, once a newbie with low confidence and zero self-esteem. 

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