When everything goes wrong

When Everything Goes Wrong: A Practical Guide to Follow

Sometimes our journey becomes endless and leaves us nowhere. We just keep running behind our dreams, but couldn't catch them despite how much labor we put in. These are moments when nothing turns out, how we imagine. 

Then, we become directionless and unmotivated. Success seems to be distant. We couldn't understand….

Where to go? 

What should we do? 

Whether it will work or not? 

This confusion makes our life further complicated. We couldn't understand what to do next? Here, we need someone to guide us. He or she can provide us a sense of direction in darkness.

To overcome this… I am writing this post. I hope it can act as a guide for all of you when nothing works. 

Here I am listing some of the hacks that can help you to build yourself in the times of crisis. 

1.Acceptance

The first and foremost step we can take is nothing but “acceptance”. Accept your destiny. What is happening? Why is this happening? Where will it lead you? Just ignore these questions. 

Acceptance will bring stillness in life. 

Remind yourself to be present in the moment. It will reduce the gap between your thoughts and thinking. It will create space for new beginnings in life and pave the way for personal growth and development. 

This will help in “Resetting” Your mindset about life and also change your approach towards life. 

2.Improve Communication Skills

Our communications skills make space for us in this competitive world. These skills come handy to strengthen our visibility. It will definitely yield the results, when we are going to get our chance.

So, why not focus on improving communication skills? As others things are already not working for us. 

I myself being a South Asian girl work hard to improve my English speaking skills. As English is not my native language but still. 

Let's take some insights from my journey of improving English speaking skills. I started when I was at the bottom of my life. 

 This gives me a sense of empowerment in my dark times. A little win definitely boosts confidence in difficult times. 

3.Read Books

Reading is the ultimate method to gain knowledge. It will be socially, financially and culturally empowering.

If you have nothing meaningful to do or things are not favouring you then just read… read… read.

Many times we heard that the top most successful people often recommended “Reading books”.

According to many financial achievers, books on personal finance help them to build their empire. Not only that… 

books horizons are so much wider that one can gain knowledge about everything. 

Books build the character… that remains silent in tough times and thrives in possibilities. 

4.Monetize your Hobby

Each one of us always pursues one or more hobbies for relaxation of mind and to spend time with ourselves. Our hobbies make us unique and creative as we have been pursuing them for a long time. Along with this, our imagination works more creatively when it comes to our hobbies. 

Today's digital world provides immense opportunities to monetize your hobby. For example writing, vlogging, editing, painting are some of the popular hobbies. 

Because, In our tough times finances become

 biggest issue to survive. 

Here, hobbies play a major role to navigate through the tough times, when nothing is working. 

So, pursue your hobby in good times, it will pursue in bad times. 

5.Planting Trees

This might sound weird but it gives a sense of achieving some milestone in life. 

As the plant grows we find that our roots are also taking place with them. 

Planting trees grounds us, when we see plants🌱 we find our actions more valuable and meaningful when nothing works for us. 

It helps in shifting our focus from fixed to growth mindset. 

Planting had widespread advantages not for you but also for other living beings. When we realize this… . Our life seems to be valuable. 

6. Travel to Unknown Places

I know the majority of the blog writers recommend travelling and exploration. But I must tell you… When we lose meaning in life, travel helps to regain our consciousness. It helps to reorient our focuses and beliefs towards life even when luck is not really in our favour. 

Traveling shows us that there are people who are going through the worst, living in hell but still holding the lamp of light to enlighten the world. 

We see ourselves as the most vulnerable person on the earth. And we consider ourselves as the most unlucky person. 

But, why? 

Just because life is not going our way. Remember no one is not bullet proof to the setbacks in life. Everyone witnessed the times, when their life was upside down. 

Understanding about this… .. What travel taught us. 

7. Cleaning

Cleaning… whether it's about mind or house both has an immense significance. Cleaning not only cleans our surroundings but also declutters our life. 

Cleaning helps to remove unwanted things and thoughts from our life and show us the original and authentic picture of ourselves. 

Cleaning of the mind comes from meditation, reflection and by living in the present moment. It helps to find meaning in “Nothing”.

  When we see things clearly, then only we are able to find out what is happening with us, the reason behind it… how to come out of this? 

8. Keep Moving Yourself

Perform simple daily tasks by yourself. Means move yourself. Take a short walk in your garden, practice cooking and do other household chores. 

Here, I want to say that do not remain seated at one place for a long time. 

By performing small tasks you will save yourself from the “endless thinking” loop. 

 Because, when things are not favourable, we often tend to overthink and get involved into self pity. Which leads to the destruction of our self image. 

It makes our transformation further painful. 

9. Take Small Steps

Taking forward steps in life is more important than stopping. Stagnations are not going to help us in the long run. We are more likely to face worse than this. 

So, small steps towards a goal may not be making us successful in the short run, but they add up… . Yes, you heard it right you will realize this only when you get the results. 

Thus, small but consistent efforts build strong barriers against our failures and at the end we witness light in darkness. 

10. Groom yourself

Sometimes we just need a moment of happiness to forget life's unfairness. Grooming ourselves gives us a moment, when we just see ourselves in the mirror and feel good. 

A well groomed person not only becomes confident, but also gains courage to re-establish his or her authority on life. Which was taken away from him in tough times. 

For this we need to focus on our outer self. Because, happiness from the outside penetrates into our inner self and grooming externally also grooms us internally. 

Summary 

Thus, it is quite impossible to live a risk free or failure free life. It is inevitable to avoid setbacks in life, if you are doing something significant. 

 “A ship is safe in the harbour, but that is not what a ship is for”.

                             . John A Shedd

Same goes with life, a fair life is only possible when we are playing safe. This also shows that we are happy with what we are getting … we are less likely to achieve milestones in life. 

But, if you have courage to see dreams and have a conviction to achieve them… . Then be ready to be unlucky and have the guts to face life's unfairness. 

There will be times when things will not go as per your assumptions. Then… you have nothing but to wait for your chance.

 In the meantime, do the things that make you empower and stronger. 

Believe that there will be a time when you are going to shine like the sun. Till then have faith and move forward slowly but definitely.