Beware What You Carry on Your Shoulders

 

People get aged not because of their age, but because they are carry so much on their shoulders? 

People get stressed not because….they have problems but because they carry them forever.

 People remain unhappy throughout their life, not because they haven't got any moment of happiness, but because they carry sadness on their shoulders. 

People fail in their life not because they are not capable enough, but because they carry ' opinions of others on their shoulders about themselves. 

There is so much to interpret the burden we carry on our shoulders that…. is not really worthy to be placed on our shoulders.

 But still we carry because sometimes we feel that carrying them will prevent us from falling into the same pit again. Sometimes we carry to show ourselves or to give a face to our struggles. 

But we couldn't get the lessons from our struggles or hardships we got in our lives, and we continue to carry the burden. 

 Remember… why you are here

1.Not every mistake is needed to be carry forever

We are humans, we make mistakes. And this is quite normal. We cannot learn everything in our mother's womb. We make mistakes, learn from them, and rectify in our next attempt. 

What is the big deal? 

But for someone it becomes an open wound for their lifetime. They carry their mistakes on their shoulders… as their dearest things. 

I want to ask them why? 

Can't you forgive yourself. Can't you take lessons from the mistake. Simply, can't you let it go and rest it in peace?

I think it's time to close your wound and lighten your shoulder by offloading it. You already had enough. 

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2.Not every taunt need your attention

I am sure everyone of you heard the phrase “ Elephants pass by, while the dogs keep barking at them.”

But when it comes to us… our little heart is ready to come out whenever we hear something ungrateful about ourselves. We are ready to deliver something more harsher. We are ready to hurt them deeper so they can remember our lesson forever. 

But, I want to ask why? 

Is it really worthy of gaining your attention? 

Is it worth finding a place on your shoulders? 

Is it worthy to respond with your precious energy and time? That probably could be used for something important. 

So, remember not every taunt is worth turning your head. Save your energy and peace for your dreams. 

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3.Not everyone get place in your heart

We all are good people. Intentionally we do not want to hurt anyone. We want to live with harmony, we don't want to become a sword for anyone. 

But, still some people will get on your nerves. And definitely you are going to lose your cool. They are going to do something unexpected, they are going to say something unexpected and much more.

 Ultimately you are going to kick them not only from your life but also from your heart. And you are going to feel burdened. 

 Things happen, learn the lessons they teaches you and forget the rest. 

Thus, you don't have to carry the burden of kicking out someone from your life. 

4.Not every coin is going to makes 10x

Coin makes coin or money makes money. Indeed true, but not every coin is going to get you a coin. Sometimes our coins get lost. Sometimes they choose others.

 Sometimes they leave to make us stronger. Sometimes they lost to bring us fortune. 

Thus, you do not need to grieve much for your lost coin. You do not need to carry the burden of lost coins on your shoulders forever. 

Rather, gather yourself and try to make more coins than you lost. 

5.Not every business is going to thrive

People start business by putting not only their hard earned money but also putting their heart and soul. Still, things go south. Their business failed miserably, they lost not only their hard earned money, but also their years, energy and hard work. 

But still… They stand up, gather themselves not because they have something to survive, but because they know “ Not every business is going to thrive, they know they can't carry the burden of failed business on their shoulders and make their life miserable."

They choose what to carry and what not. 

6.Not every friendship will go to forever

Friendship is the best thing that happened to any individual. We live our best with our friends. We cherish the moment we live with our friends forever. We want to remain the same for the rest of our life. 

But, friendships survive more when we are together, we are meeting daily. Until we have nothing to dedicate ourselves fully. Until we have our sh*t to deal with. 

I am not saying that… friendships have no future. Offcourse, there are forever friendships also. Those are rare and exceptions. 

But, from a layman's perspective not every friendship is going to turn into forever. 

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7. Not every revenge is needed to be taken

People do injustice with you. People will hurt you, beat you, in the worst case scenario they are going to snatch everything from you. 

And it is very likely for you to be angry. It is very likely to seek revenge. 

But, in all cases only you, who is going to suffer. As you carry the heavy bag of your revenge on your shoulders. This will not only hurt your body, but also going to take away your peace of mind.

So, leave the burden of revenge behind, let their karma hit them back. 

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8.Not every person is going to support you

We are the child of expectations. We expect a lot from others. We expect them to lay the red carpet for us. Our whole life revolves around others, what do they do for us? How do they talk to us? We expect they are God sent angels for us. 

If they don't do what we expect, we are doomed. Our life is supposed to be over. 

But I ask why? 

Why the hell you become so dependent on others?

Can't you live by yourself? Can't you do things for yourself? Can't you focus on yourself? 

Not every person is here to support you. Why to carry the burden of expectations forever. Just relieve yourself from the burden of expectations. 

9.Not every opinion is going to define your success

Your success is going to come from what you do? Not from people's opinions. Your success is going to come from the hard work you put in, not from people's judgements. 

Your success is your story, that is going to be written only by you, not by passerbys. 

So, don't collect the stones that are thrown at you. It will only burden you and your shoulders. Instead, make a wall from them, so they can't hit you. And let your success hit them hard. 

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10.Not every chapter of your life is supposed to be written by golden words

Some chapters are going to be blank, while some are going to be written in black ink, or some can with red. There are going to be different colors, and it is the beauty of life.

This is not the case with you, it happens with everyone. 

Why take so much burden about this? 

It's completely normal, some bad chapters do not define your life. Life is much bigger than our failures, mistakes. 

Now it's your turn

Now it's your turn to recognize the burdens you are carrying on your shoulders. Now it's time to lighten your shoulders by offloading these burdens. 

You can't take them to your grave. Burdens only make you feel heavy. They will not permit you to explore the adventures of life. They are going to restrict your movement, they are going to restrict your happiness, they are going to restrict the colorful view of your life. 

So, learn the lessons, forget the rest and keep your shoulders lightened, so you can enjoy life fully. Remember you got only one life and that is quite short to carry burdens.