Beware What You Carry on Your Shoulders

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  People get aged not because of their age, but because they are carry so much on their shoulders?  People get stressed not because….they have problems but because they carry them forever.  People remain unhappy throughout their life, not because they haven't got any moment of happiness, but because they carry sadness on their shoulders.  People fail in their life not because they are not capable enough, but because they carry ' opinions of others on their shoulders about themselves.  There is so much to interpret the burden we carry on our shoulders that…. is not really worthy to be placed on our shoulders.  But still we carry because sometimes we feel that carrying them will prevent us from falling into the same pit again. Sometimes we carry to show ourselves or to give a face to our struggles.  But we couldn't get the lessons from our struggles or hardships we got in our lives, and we continue to carry the burden.   Remember… why you are h...
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A letter to myself: About Life, growth and Healing

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Dear Meghna, 

Enough is enough. How long will it take you to come out from your past? How much pain will you cause to yourself? How long are you going to sit on your failures? How long are you going to ignore yourself? How long are you going to attach your worth with your success? 

Can't you mourn enough, can't you suffer enough, can't you ignore yourself enough,can't you remain unhappy enough… 

Tell me how long you are going to take to. ... understand life? When are you going to start living your life? When are you going to heal yourself? When are you going to understand the concept of growth in your life? When you are going to be happy by yourself? And when you are going to take care of things you have? 

Life is not fair, life is hard… but it has nothing to do with life. But, it has everything to do with your life. 
Remember hard lessons are learned by doing hard things. 

Come out from your self made world… you need to learn this.. 

1.You can't control everything… that happens in your life

Though you had done very hard things in your life and results would have been as you expected. You have sacrificed all your fun for your dreams. You go to the highest length and breadth for your dreams. 

 But now what? 

Maybe life wants something else for you . God has other plans for you. 

I think this is how life works. This is what the universe wants. 

So, keep in mind… you can control your actions only, You can't control results. 

2.Don’t be hard on your self

What if you could not achieve your goals? What if you couldn't live your ideal life? What if people mock you? What if people talk about you? 

You are not responsible for any of these things. You don't need to curse yourself for all this nonsense. You are not supposed to be against yourself. People are there to do their job. You simply can't criticize yourself 24×7 for unfinished agendas of your life. 

Don't be hard on yourself. Treat yourself as you advise your friend to do. Show compassion to yourself. 
Be proud of yourself. Be proud of how hard you have tried. Be proud of the lessons you have learned. 

3.Don't attach your worth to the spineless success

You are much bigger than your success. You are way more than your achievements. Your success is not your identity. 
And before the success “you are already something.”

Success is not here to define your worth. Success is not life. It is a part of life. Remember those who attached your existence with your success… they are nobody. Those who truly love you… will love you anyway irrespective of your achievements. 

So, stop paying attention to those who see you as an object rather than a living being. Or those who attach your value to your success. 

Remember you are not here to entertain people, you are here to live your life. 

4.Don’t ignore yourself

Don't take yourself lightly. Your behavior with yourself determines how others behave with you. Start respecting yourself. You are worthy of it. 

Learn to dress up, learn to enjoy life, learn to treat yourself better for small breakthroughs in your life. You yourselves have to cheer you up. Nobody else is going to do it. 

You already ignored yourself enough. What did you get in the end? So, it's better to take yourself seriously and live your life fully. Life is short, you can't ignore yourself all the time. 

5.Don’t ignore your happiness

Happiness is not something you are going to get, when you achieve something incredible or something unexpected.

 And you have already seen it. You waited to be happy… see what you get in the end?... Only regret for not being happy in your life. 

Happiness is a state of mind. It has nothing to do with your success or your worth. It naturally comes to you. For that you have to be mindful, you have to live in the present moment. You have to leave behind all your worries and all your fears about your life. 

Happiness brings growth automatically. Learn to enjoy your journey, then wait to reach your destination. 

6.Don’t delay your Healing

Whatever happened in your life? How much have you suffered in your life? How hard has life been? How deep are your wounds are? How many times have you cried your heart out?

 Irrespective of all these… 

You can still heal yourself. The only thing you need is the “will to heal yourself”, nothing else. Remember you can't delay your healing. You just can't sit with your suffering. 

 A one bad chapter of your book has no power to push you in complete darkness. Life has a lot to offer you… but before that you have to be ready to receive it… . So, heal yourself. 

7.Stop living in abeyance

Start to share your life with yourself. Share your thoughts with yourself. Share your likes and dislikes with yourself. You can't remain oblivious to yourself. 

This will bring clarity to your life. Stop following the path that others carved out for you. 

Follow your heart, trust your decisions and take action with courage. You have already completed the quota of living in confusion. Now it's time to say goodbye to the confusion to grow in life. 

8.Stop being over protective of yourself

Remember…you have to venture into an uncertain world. You can't avoid risks all the time. A risk less life is possible only when you do nothing meaningful. 

Otherwise you have to take risks, you have to drive into foggy roads if you want to do something significant in your life. To have to take the path that nobody has taken, your have to do the things nobody has done. You have to face your fears. You have to deal with uncertainty of your life. 
In the end everything is going to be worth it. 

9.Don’t Take everything personal

Not everyone talks about you. Not everything that is happening is about you. Not everything is related to you. 

You're the tiniest part of this infinite universe.

 Thus, come out from your self made world. Don't overthink the matter that is going to be irrelevant in the next moment. Don't stress about the things that are not going to matter on the very next day of your life. 

10. Do what you love

 You have to do what you love the most, if you want to live your life as per your own wishes. Unless there is so much to waste time upon. 
Now it's time to open the window of your heart. Now it's time to venture into your own heart. 

You already had enough of everything, now it's time to move forward. Now it's time to bring yourself out of the darkness. You no longer belong there. You deserve brightness. You deserve all the blessings and abundance that the universe has to offer. 


From Meghna



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